Better versus Bitter!

March 21, 2011

I recently read a nice piece on how we could take every experience in our life, especially the difficult ones, and use them to grow, learn from, and become better. Yet many of us, when faced with difficult situations, become bitter, frustrated, angry or sad, and miss the opportunity to learn from the experience.


This is not to say that we should not feel all the emotions that accompany a difficult event, it is totally normal to feel frustrated, sad, angry, etc… However, it is our choice to take the situation and try to grow from it, evolve, and understand the lesson behind it. If we choose to do so, we are choosing to be "Better" as opposed to just "Bitter".

We can't control everything around us, we can't control how other people act towards us (even our closest friends and family), what we can control is our own actions, our own reactions (or lack of, for that matter), and there lies our true POWER.

When we are clear on our actions, we don't worry much anymore about the outcome, because we know in our hearts that we are doing the best we can, and that whatever comes will be ok.

Believing we have control over everything (or almost) is just an illusion and it can bring a lot of stress into our lives. By letting go of control, we become much more peaceful, calmer and happier.

So, since we only have control over our actions, it is important to clear our heads and become more balanced and peaceful, in order to choose the best actions at any given moment, regardless of how challenging the situation might be. This is where tools like Meditation, Tapping, Reflection, etc. are so important, if we make them part of our daily lives we will be in a better place to make the right choice when needed.

Anyway, just for fun, here is a little exercise that we can all use and that will help us control our actions and fight our "reactions" I encourage you to try it!

Practice "non-reaction, as a way of self control"

Often times, when we have an encounter with a person (co-worker, family member, stranger on the street, etc.) that gets on our nerves, or is mean to us, we tend to label them, judge them or take it personally, and start harboring negative thoughts and feelings.

As an exercise, take the kind of encounters described above as an opportunity to control your reactions (re-actions) and practice non-reaction instead: do not judge, do not criticize, do not label people, do not respond aggressively and do not take things personally!!!

This can be a tough exercise, but the more you work at it, the better you become at it, and believe me, you will have less and less of these kind of encounters! Your thoughts will become healthier and more positive.

Remember: what they do to you is their choice, the way you react to it is your choice, it is up to you to take the healthier path. Choose to be better and not bitter!!

Have a wonderful week!

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