Finding Happiness and Peace Inside Ourselves

February 6th, 2011

This week I chose a subject that will probably sound familiar to most of you, it is about finding happiness and peace inside ourselves. You have probably all heard this over and over, but how realistic is this? How can we really find happiness or peace if we are in less than happy or peaceful circumstances...


Well, the truth is, life is a journey filled with ups and downs, some days are good some are not so good, sometimes everything is working great for us, sometimes nothing works the way we'd hoped... some days we are healthy, some days we are sick, etc. That is the nature of life, and there is not much we can do to change it.

However, if we achieve enough balance, so as not to let external circumstances determine our feelings, if we can find peace within chaos and a silver lining inside dark clouds, we can live a much better life; and there is no doubt we can ALL do this.

Truth be said, some people have a more natural tendency to remain happy and peaceful than others. Some are more capable to see the good things in every situation, but those who are not in this group, can still become more positive if they believe it is important and will benefit their lives. I truly believe it is of great importance and it is worth devoting some time and effort to this achievement.
I count myself in the group that was not naturally blessed with optimism and genuine happiness, but I am committed to finding the balance inside myself not to let the world around me shake me too hard.

A few days ago, at my yoga class, the teacher had us hold a pretty tough pose, and as we were all working hard to hold it, he said something that stayed with me, he said: "The key here is to find comfort within discomfort". This is something that works in yoga poses as much as life situations, if we are able to find balance and ground ourselves during a storm, we won't be blown up by it.

Some people blame their unhappiness on others, on the weather, on their lack of money, health, etc. If you are part of this group, you are probably feeling hopeless, and with good reason, since there is no much you can do to control these factors, but the truth is, none of these factors should determine your happiness, only YOU can, for if you look at them differently, they will start to change.

"Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change."
-Dr Wayne Dyer-

A shift in perspective is sometimes all it takes to turn a situation around, I know this is hard to believe, but it is true. If you look around you, you will surely find people that are happy, even in less than happy situations, and you will find people that are unhappy no matter all their blessings, it is about changing your beliefs and your attitudes, but this is not so easy indeed.

"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is impossible to find it elsewhere."
- Agnes Repplier -

So, our choices here are:

  1. Hope for external factors to be perfect or
  2. Work on ourselves to find perfection within

The second option is by far the most realistic, because it depends on us, we have the power to do it, which is not true with the first option, so even if it takes some work, some discipline, some time, it will pay off!

For those of you who believe your happiness will come when...: you own a bigger house, find a soul mate, have a baby, etc. you are postponing your happiness to an uncertain time and situation that may or may not come, plus, only if you are able to find happiness in the present moment, will you be able to materialize your desires in the future, happiness is actually the precursor to success and not the other way around, this is an important thing to keep in mind!: your future depends on your present moment.

I recently watched a TED video with Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage. I greatly encourage you to watch it, not only is he hilarious, but he gives some good tips and his talk is really interesting. Beware he talks a little fast!. Here below is a link to the video. Enjoy!


Here below are other inspiring articles, videos and movies that you may want to check out:

Have a HAPPY week!


* The Happy Movie, screening on Feb. 11th all over the country!

* Let Your Heart Sing: Virtual Vision Retreat for Moms, Sunday Feb. 12th

* Improve your Creativity: a Silva Life Seminar, Feb. 18-19, Washington DC area

* 21 Day Meditation Challenge, starts Feb. 20 Free Registration.


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